ThE UnExPeCtEd

Life is hard. Sometimes it is flipped upside down with no warning and you are forced to enter an entirely new life style. For me, this was getting out of my four-year relationship not knowing what my future held anymore. All the plans I had so selfishly made for myself were all thrown in the trash and I was alone for the first time in four years. It’s weird. I can’t say that I am entirely ok yet. Four years is a long time to be with someone. And losing my best friend hurts more than anything I’ve ever been through. But in this new season of life I have been able to learn things I know I wouldn’t have been able to learn if I was still in my relationship. I’ve seen new places, made tons of friends, and just been able to sit back and enjoy where I am right now. It sucks being lonely and not talking to someone 24/7. Yeah. But it’s a new season of life and I’m all about embracing it.

things I’ve learned:

1.     THE LORD'S PLANS ARE SO MUCH BETTER THAN WHAT YOU HAD PLANNED
I've really struggled with this one. Constantly asking God why. Why did he let my relationship end the way it did. Why did he do this to me. Why was he making me hurt and not feel good enough. Why did he want me to be lonely. And after a really long time of breaking down and crying out to God I’ve finally been able to understand. I was not where I needed to be anymore. And that was the Lord's way of showing me because I seriously WOULD NOT LISTEN. Now where I am is the absolute best place for me. I am so beyond happy and have made friends and met so many people that have helped me heal. God puts seasons and people in your life to help you grow in Him. I know that I wasn’t growing in the place I was at before this and God had to rip that out from under me in order for me to see that. I’m selfish and didn’t want to believe it for a while. But now that I have accepted it I have never been stronger in my faith. I am thriving and on fire for Jesus.

2.     GOD WILL PUT THE PERFECT PEOPLE FOR YOU IN YOUR LIFE WHEN U NEED THEM

I went to college completely unaware of what drastic life change I was about to have. When my world was flipped upside down I was only two weeks into college and still in the “fun I’m on my own” stage living it up. When things started to go downhill I was a complete mess. But guys let me tell ya, !!!!{COLLEGE FRIENDS ARE LIKE NO OTHER}!!!! These people were constantly checking on me, they wouldn’t let me be alone for two seconds, they took me places, fed me, and gave me the best advice that I KNEW I needed to hear. They are constantly leading me to Jesus and praying for me. They take me to church. Ya’ll. They weren’t lying when they said you meet your best friends in college. Cuz man, I met mine. And I wouldn’t have been able to get through this tough stage in life without them.

3.     HE TAKES PEOPLE OUT TO PUT PEOPLE IN (goes with previous one)

You may think that you lost someone you needed in your life. But I promise you, the Lord took them out of your life because it was supposed to happen and it is for your own good. I wrestled with God on this one for YEARS. I’m stubborn and I don’t like to take advice from people that I don’t want to hear. For the longest time I was stuck in this place in life where I was satisfied. No matter how many times the Lord said “NO DREW” I still didn’t listen and decided to stay in a place he was telling me to run from. And now looking at my life I am SO ANGRY with myself because I could have avoided all this pain I have been through if I would of just ran the first time He showed me a sign. But after all of these years I was finally able to learn something and get what I was supposed to out of my situation. Trust the Lord. If He is telling you to go, GO. If he is telling you to stay, STAY. If he is telling you to step out in faith, DO IT. I promise you, you can do it. He will get you through EVERYTHING no matter how much it scares you. Don’t be like me and stay just because you are afraid to lose your normal.

4.     BEING SINGLE IS OK

THIS. Hahahaha. This is a tough one for me. I was with the same guy for 4 years and I couldn’t even tell you what it felt like to be single. I had literally no idea how to be alone and that’s why I stayed through all the heartache and sadness. I was scared. Scared to start over with someone else. Share every single thing about myself to someone. Learn everything about another person who wasn’t the one I wanted for years and years. I just didn’t care to and wanted to stay in my comfort bubble and never leave. No matter how bad it got. And i'm here to tell you, that is not how you should do it. If that boy is not good to you. Leave him. If he doesn’t treat you like a princess. LEAVE HIM. There are so many great guys on this planet that would die to treat you the way you should be treated. So why are you settling? Hehehe. I know why you are cuz that was me. But seriously, if you get nothing else out of this blog post (if you are even still reading) GO FIND A GODLY MAN WHO PURSUES JESUS FIRST AND THEN YOU WITH ALL HIS HEART. They are out there. I promise.

5.     IT WILL BE OK

It’s been a little over a month since my heart was completely destroyed and I’m alive to say that it will be ok. Yes. It hurts more than anything I have ever had to experience in my life. But every day it gets easier. Your life keeps moving forward and you have to also. Dwelling on the past does nothing but break your heart more. You have to trust God, and trust that His plan has something so much better in store. I have had to completely give myself to the Lord and rely on him in this time of hurt and it has only strengthened my relationship with Him. and I know that’s the good that was supposed to come out of this. So if you’re stuck, and feel like you’re running from God. Stop and just give it up. He has something SO MUCH BIGGER planned for your life.